Sam Brown - Stop

"Stop!"

All that I have is all that you've given me
Did you ever worry that I'd come to depend on you
I gave you all the love I had in me
Now I find you've lied and I can't believe it's true

Wrapped in her arms I see you across the street
And I can't help but wonder if she knows what's going on
You talk of love but you don't know how it feels
When you realise that you're not the only one

Oh you'd better stop before you tear me all apart
You'd better stop before you go and break my heart
Ooh you'd better stop

Time after time I've tried to walk away
But it's not that easy when your soul is torn in two
So I just resign myself to it every day
Now all I can do is to leave it up to you

Oh you'd better stop before you tear me all apart
You'd better stop before you go and break my heart
Ooh you'd better stop

Stop if love me
(you will remember)
Now's the time to be sorry
(that day forever)
I won't believe that you'd walk out on me

Oh you'd better stop before you tear me all apart
You'd better stop before you go and break my heart
Ooh you'd better stop

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14 Business Jargon Phrases People Love To Hate

JOANNA CUTRARA

When humans aggregate into groups, we tend to develop new lexicons specific to our group context. Wizards complain about “muggles,” high schoolers aspire to “squad goals”—and occasionally a mid-level manager stares fervently into your eyes and tells you it’s time to “shift the paradigm.”

In recent years business jargon has somehow evolved into a tangled mess of annoying, pretentious, tired clichés that are more effective at obscuring than clarifying meaning.

If you haven’t guessed already, this post is for all you noble crusaders against jargon (a.k.a. “haters”) who have had enough of “moving the needle,” “idea showers,” and “putting your ducks in row.” Whether you’re a jargon-hater or you consider it a necessary (if annoying) part of office life, take a moment during your “bio break” to enjoy our list of the worst workspeak phrases we love to hate.

1Low-Hanging Fruit

Are you skipping blithely through an orchard, plucking apples for your grandmother’s pie? No? We didn’t think so. This ridiculous phrase is all about going for the quick fix and the easy win in order to get immediate results. So go ahead and put all the hard stuff on the “back burner”—there’s zero chance that could come back to bite you, right?

2Leverage

Mind-numbingly overused, and a favorite of managers attempting to “climb the ladder.”

“Leveraging our goodwill with millennials will help us increase sales.”

Please, quit deluding yourself. Incessantly using “leverage” as a verb does not increase our estimation of your intelligence.

3Open the Kimono

One of the stranger artifacts of office lingo, “open the kimono” means to reveal information or secrets, such as the inner workings of a company or the details of a project. If being low-key racist and sexist doesn’t turn you off, this phrase is also exceptionally creepy.

4Giving 110%

A hyperbolic phrase synonymous with “going above and beyond.” Translation: “We’d like you to work fourteen-hour days for the next two weeks because of an arbitrary decision the CEO made.” Unless you’re a professional athlete or Little League coach, this phrase should not be in your vocabulary.

5Learnings

One of the most heinous buzzwords to crawl out of the office petri dish.

“On this next slide I’ll share my main learnings from the conference.”

Please, don’t ever share your “learnings” with us, just tell us what you learned. #MakeLearningAVerbAgain

6Out of Pocket

A term with dubious etymology meaning “I won’t be available.”

“I’ll be out of pocket this week. You can reach out to my assistant with any urgent requests.”

Okay, enough with the abysmal out-of-office messages. For those of you who would like to make a positive impression, here are ten out of office messages you’ll want to copy.

7Drink the Kool-Aid

Meaning to unquestioningly buy into something, such as a company’s “mission.” This common idiom originated from the mass suicide-massacre of 1978 when over 900 members of the Jonestown commune were forced to drink poisoned Flavor Aid by their crazed leader. So, maybe you should stop casually referencing horrific tragedies during your board meetings.

8Bio Break

An annoying and unnecessary euphemism for taking a bathroom break during a meeting. Seriously, all you need to do is announce a ten-minute break. You can spare us the details.

9Blue Sky Thinking

Thinking “outside the box” wasn’t enough. Your new imperative is to think in a way that is so exceptionally creative that you are unbound by the constraints of convention, common sense, or even reality. It’s all blue sky up there, baby!

10Tiger Team

A group of specialists assembled to tackle a particular problem.

“The Tiger Team is working to get the pension problem under control.”

Stop kidding yourself. Unless you’re an elite government hacker (the origin of the term) or you’re wearing tights and shouting “Thundercats, Hooo!” you are not in a Tiger Team.

11Idea Shower or Thought Shower

A brainstorm, but apparently with no brains required. Please keep your “thought showers” to yourself, thank you very much.

12Moving the Goalposts

Changing an expectation or parameter of an ongoing project, making the project more difficult to complete.

“If our client keeps moving the goalposts, we won’t be able to deliver their report on time!”

This is also a great way to cheat at games in your backyard, when you’re a child.

“Mom! Benny moved the goalposts again! It’s not fair!”

13Drill Down

To investigate something in detail. Synonymous with the equally insufferable “let’s unpack that” and “peeling the onion.”

14Gain Traction

An infuriatingly overused buzzword meaning “to gain popularity.”

“Our new SeeFood app has failed to gain traction, we’ve only had twelve downloads.”

Who knows, maybe you would gain more traction if you didn’t use such terrible business jargon all the time.

7 Helpful Tips on How to Write A Memorable Personal Essay

KAREN HERTZBERG

Everyone has a story to tell and a message to share. The challenge lies in getting that story and message out of your head and into print in a way that resonates with your audience.

Starting somewhere in the late 2000s, a certain type of personal essay experienced a popularity boom. These essays were ultra-personal and confessional in nature, often in a TMI sort of way. Their headlines were clickable, not to mention shareable, for their shock value alone.

Although the confessional shock essay’s star seems to be fading, the personal essay itself is still standing strong. Essay collections by late greats like James Baldwin (The First Next Time) and David Foster Wallace (Consider the Lobster) still top Amazon’s Best Sellers in essays. Jenny Lawson (aka The Bloggess) launched a career with her darkly funny and self-effacing essays about her health and mental illness challenges (Let’s Pretend This Never Happened). Celebrities like Mindy Kaling (Why Not Me?) and Tina Fey (Bossypants) blended personal essays into memoir-esque collections that became best sellers. We head for the nearest bookseller when essay titans like David Sedaris or Anne Lamott have a new release.

We’re thirsty for real stories and musings from people who are able to share their foibles, lessons, and truths in a way we can relate to. Here are seven tips to help you craft a personal essay that will connect with readers.

1 Understand what a personal essay is.

Ask three different experts what a personal essay is and you’ll likely get three different answers. Are they structured? Must they address a certain type of subject? Here’s a definition we like:

A personal essay is a short work of autobiographical nonfiction characterized by a sense of intimacy and a conversational manner. Also called a personal statement.

A type of creative nonfiction, the personal essay is ‘all over the map,’ according to Annie Dillard. ‘There’s nothing you can’t do with it. No subject matter is forbidden, no structure is prescribed. You get to make up your own form every time.’

—Richard Nordquist for ThoughtCo.

Personal essays relate the author’s intimate thoughts and experiences to universal truths. They aren’t simply a retelling of events, though—that falls more in the realm of memoir or autobiography. They conclude with the author having learned, changed, or grown in some way and often present some truth or insight that challenges the reader to draw their own conclusions.

2 Find a compelling topic.

The best essay topics are often deeply relatable. Although the story itself is unique to the author’s experience, there’s some universal truth that speaks to us from just below the surface. Topics like facing a fear, falling in love, overcoming an obstacle, discovering something new, or making a difficult choice tackle feelings and events that happen in everyone’s life.

3 Start with a strong hook.

As with any type of writing, it’s essential to draw the reader in from the very first paragraph, or even the first sentence. Here are a few examples.

Aside from Peter, who supposedly guards the gates of heaven and is a pivotal figure in any number of jokes, the only saint who’s ever remotely interested me is Francis of Assisi, who was friends with the animals.

—David Sedaris, “Untamed”

When I was young, my family didn’t go on outings to the circus or trips to Disneyland. We couldn’t afford them. Instead, we stayed in our small rural West Texas town, and my parents took us to cemeteries.

—Jenny Lawson, “Amelia and Me”

I underwent, during the summer that I became fourteen, a prolonged religious crisis.

—James Baldwin, “Letter from a Region in My Mind”

Alone, we are doomed. By the same token, we’ve learned that people are impossible, even the ones we love most—especiallythe ones we love most.

—Anne Lamott, “Blessings: After Catastrophe, A Community Unites”

Your hook and opening paragraph should establish the topic of your essay (or at least allude to it) and set the scene and tone.

4 Create an outline.

All it takes to understand the importance of an outline is listening to someone who struggled to tell a personal story. Often, the story will seem to have no real point. The switchbacks where the teller says “But wait, I have to tell you about this part, first!” are maddening and disruptive. An outline will help you organize your thoughts before committing them to text.

Consider your opening hook and the statement it makes, then map out the sequence of events or main points that support it. Just like a good fictional story, your essay should have rising action. Raise the stakes with each paragraph until you reach a climax or turning point. Plan to add a conclusion that will evoke an emotional response in your reader.

5 Narrow your focus.

Don’t try to write to a general topic. Your essay may well be about sexism, but you need to illustrate it through the lens of a defining incident that’s deeply personal to you. What did your experiences teach you about sexism? What does it mean to you as an individual?

6 Show, don’t tell.

Close your eyes. Think of the scene you’re about to write down. What were you experiencing with your five senses? How did you feel?

Your challenge is to evoke those senses and feelings without flatly stating them. Don’t say “I felt cold.” Say “I exhaled and my breath turned to vapor that hung in the air. I shivered and pulled the blanket tight around my shoulders in a vain attempt to trap my body heat.” Your description should help the reader experience the cold with you. Stephen King describes it as making the reader “prickle with recognition.”

7 Craft a thought-provoking conclusion.

Your essay should end with your own reflection and analysis. What did you learn? How have the events and thoughts you described changed your life or your understanding of life? It’s not enough to say “And that’s what happened.” You have to describe how whatever happened shaped you.

Just as a good lead hooks readers and draws them along for the ride, a good conclusion releases them from your essay’s thrall with a frisson of pleasure, agreement, passion or some other sense of completion. Circling back to your lead in your conclusion is one way to give readers that full-circle sense. Try to restate your thesis in a way that reflects the journey the essay has taken.

—Tom Bentley for Writer’s Digest

There is so much outside the false cloister of private experience; and when you write, you do the work of connecting that terrible privacy to everything beyond it.

—Leslie Jamison for Publishers Weekly

Meet vs Get Together

Training Past Simple - short stories

Weather vocabulary

How to Say and Use EXCUSE ME in English

“Excuse me” is a phrase that can be used in various situations with various meanings.  Learn the different ways to use it, and learn how to say this phrase comfortably in conversational English: what words or syllables to reduce, how to link everything together, and the melodic shape of the phrase.

Video Text:

In this American English pronunciation video, we’re going to go over how to pronounce and use the phrase ‘excuse me’.

The phrase ‘excuse me’ can be used in different situations to mean different things.  But first, let’s talk about the pronunciation of the word ‘excuse’.  I’m going to say it two different ways.  Can you hear the difference?  Excuse, excuse.  Excuse, excuse.  It’s a subtle difference, and it’s in the ending sound.  If the ending sound is voiced, in this case, a Z sound, excuse, then it’s a verb.  If it’s unvoiced, excuse, then it’s a noun.

It’s a verb in the phrase ‘excuse me’.  So, for the most part, we will be using a Z sound.

The different ways to use this phrase.  First, you can use it to get someone’s attention.

>> Excuse me, where’s the bathroom?
>> Around the corner.

>> Excuse me, do you have the time?
>> Ah, it’s about 9:15.
>> Thank you sir.
>> You’re welcome.

Because we’re using it to get someone’s attention, excuse me, it has to be very clear and a little bit louder.  So, we begin with the IH as in SIT vowel.  Ih, ih, ih, a little jaw drop.  Ex-, ex-, ex-.

To make the K, the back part of the tongue reaches up and touches the soft palate.  Ex-, kk, kk, ks, ks.  Do you see how my jaw closes?  That’s because the teeth have to be together to make the S.  The tongue tip is down, pressing here, to put a little tension in the tongue, behind the bottom front teeth.  Ex-, ex-.

The back part of the tongue reaches up and touches the soft palate, kk, kk, kk.

da-DA-da, excuse me.  It has the EW as in FEW diphthong.  So, the tongue tip is down, pressing behind the bottom front teeth.  For the first half of the diphthong, the front part of the tongue is reaching towards the roof of the mouth, yy, yy, to make that Y sound.  Excu-, yy, yy, yy.  Then we have the OO vowel, excu-, so the lips will round.  Excuse me, -se me, -se me.  Then we have the Z sound, the M consonant, and the EE vowel.  So, so make the Z sound, the tongue is here, touching the back of the bottom front teeth, and the teeth are closed, zz, zz.  It’s just like the S except I’m vibrating the vocal cords with my voice, zz.  ZZ-mm.  Then we just close the lips to go into the M sound.  Excuse me, ee.  And then the EE as in SHE vowel.  Lips will part, jaw won’t drop much because the tongue is lifting pretty high to the roof of the mouth.  The tongue tip is down, but the front part lifts.  Excuse me, excuse me.

Let’s watch one more time.

>> Excuse me, where’s the bathroom?
>> Around the corner.

>> Excuse me, do you have the time?
>> Ah, it’s about 9:15.
>> Thank you sir.
>> You’re welcome.

We also use this phrase to get around somebody, or if we accidentally bump into somebody in a crowd.  Now here, we don’t really need to get someone’s attention, so we might really mutter it, excuse me, ‘scuse me, ‘scuse me, dropping the first syllable altogether.  I’ve noticed sometimes I even almost just whisper it if I accidentally bump into somebody, or if I need to slide between two people, ‘scuse me [3x].  So this is very different from the first case where we needed to get someone’s attention, and we had to say it really clearly.  Excuse me, ‘scuse me, ‘scuse me.

>> ‘Scuse me, ‘scuse me.
>> ‘Scuse me, ‘scuse me, thank you.  ‘Scuse me.

We can also use this phrase if we don’t understand, we need somebody to repeat what they’ve said.  Excuse me?  Excuse me?  Here again I’m dropping the first syllable.  You don’t have to.  Excuse me?  But it doesn’t have to be so clearly pronounced because we’re not getting someone’s attention.  We don’t have to get the focus here, we already have the focus.  Excuse me, excuse me?  Notice also, the voice is going up in pitch.  That means it’s a question.  That’s the signal to the person that I didn’t understand.  Excuse me?

>> So I don’t know what I’m going to get.
>> Excuse me?
>> I don’t know what I’m going to get.
>> Ah.

>> How about three?
>> Excuse me?
>> How about three?
>> Yeah, three works.
>> Okay.

>> Excuse me?   [6x]

It’s just like saying ‘What did you say?’, only it’s a little faster.  Excuse me, excuse me?

This phrase can also be used sarcastically, as a response to somebody overreacting to something.  For example, ‘Rachel, you always make a mess in the kitchen.’  ‘Excuse me.’  Now, when we use it sarcastically like that, we tend to really stretch out the stressed syllable, excuse, excuse.  Well excuse me.  Of course, it’s a little bit rude, you would be using this, maybe, in an argument with somebody.

>> Dad, I can’t believe you ate the last cookie!
>> Well excuse me!

So there you go, four different ways to use and pronounce the phrase excuse me.  So the pronunciation matters.  Are we trying to get somebody’s attention?  Then we need to be really clear.  Are we signaling that we don’t understand?   Then we need to phrase it as a question with the pitch going up.  Excuse me?  Instead of, excuse me.

>> [burp] Excuse me!
>> Hi.
>> Hi.

I hope this video has helped you figure out how and when to use this phrase.  Don’t forget to like and share this video!

That’s it, and thanks so much for using Rachel’s English.

>> Did you touch your mic?  You can’t touch it.
>> Well excuse me!!

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Как научиться использовать популярный оборот Used To в английском языке

Когда мы изучаем английский и сталкиваемся с фразовым глаголом USED TO, то наступает конфуз, т.к. мы пытаемся перевести его дословно. Не стоит этого делать.

На наш родной его следует переводить, скорее, как "раньше", когда мы говорим о прошлой привычке, или "привык", "привыкаю", "привыкну", если говорит о настоящем времени или будущем.

Например. если вам надо сказать, что-то вроде: "Раньше я играл на фортепиано", вам достаточно сказать "I used to play piano" и никак больше, любые другие формы будут звучать неуклюже.

Пользуясь схемой ниже, вы легко сможете выстраивать утвердительные, отрицательные и вопросительные предложения с использованием оборота USED TO.

Чтобы сделать свою речь более натуральной и понимать носителей языка - без USED TO вам не обойтись. Почаще обращайтесь к схеме, практикуйте, исправляйте себя и спустя несколько недель этот оборот станет для вас привычным.

Какие еще способы выразить мысль при помощи этого оборота и как использовать его в разных временах, смотрите ниже под слайдом.

Практическая схема как пользоваться оборотом USED TO

Практическая часть:
На одном только обороте Used To можно построить целую историю. Это лучший способ из тех, что я знаю, чтобы освоить этот фразовый глагол.

Например, чтобы лучше понять, как использовать этот оборот, прочтите историю и составьте свою:

I used to eat McDonalds.
(Раньше я часто ел пищу из МакДональдс)

I had gotten used to eating McDonalds after I got a new job.
(Я привык есть из МакДональдс после того, как получил новую работу)

I got used to doing it due to McDonalds was close to my office.
(Привык я потому, что МакДональдс был рядом с моим офисом)

Now I'm getting used to eating more healthy food.
(Сейчас я стараюсь приучить себя к более здоровой пище)

I've already gotten used to consuming less fat daily.
(Я уже привык употреблять меньше жиров за день)

It took me a while, but I'm used to eating less at night.
(Это заняло некоторое время, но но сейчас мне уже привычно есть меньше на ночь)

I'll be getting used to doing sports.
(Я буду приучать себя к спорту)

I'll get used to living more disciplined life.
(Я приучу себя к более дисциплинированной жизни)

Постарайтесь прочувствовать смысл каждого предложения, который вы хотите донести. Не переводите их дословно, разбейте на блоки, например так:

I used to (раньше я) eat McDonalds (ел пищу из МакДональдс).
I had gotten used to (я привык) eating McDonalds (есть из МакДональдс) after I got a new job (после того, как я получил новую работу).
и т.д.

И подставляйте в эти блоки фразы из собственной жизни. Пара недель по 5 минут в день и USED TO больше для вас не проблема ;)

Небольшим бонусом ниже еще один слайд с наглядной демострацией, в каком промежутке времени лежит каждая из описанных выше фраз. Также незаменим для продуктивной практики.

Визуализация использования USED TO в разных временах